Tag: Pain

  • Those of us who were old enough to understand will never forget  hearing the first reports of planes flying into the Twin Towers and watching heart-Blog. 9.11.Twin towers. 9.14stopping photos like these.

    The horror of it seemed beyond understanding.

    Over 3,000 Americans that beautiful September morning never made it home.   

    Each one had family and friends who loved them, who ached to hear their dear one tell them, "I'm okay."  

    But when their phones finally rang, that's not what the voice on the other end told them.

    Tragedy usually is like that–out of the blue 

    Life is a risky proposition. Being alive, feeling safe in our situation, is more fragile than we know.

    It lasts until . . .

    Until tragedy strikes close to home. A teenage son or daughter is killed in an accident. Our parent or spouse is diagnosed with Alzheimer's. A two-year old grandchild is diagnosed with leukemia.  

    Until something happens that shakes us to our core. Maybe we felt safe in our healthy living habits and patted ourselves on the back for resisting those "dastardly" foods we once loved, pushing ourselves to stay fit.

    Then came that symptom. Or that test. That calm, impersonal voice saying, "I'm sorry to tell you, but . . . . "

    That's when our inner self screamed, "No! Not me! Not mine!"

    Yet it was us. It was our loved one. And no amount of weeping or talking or consulting specialists could make it go away.

    At last we understood there was nothing to do but get through it and count on God's strength in Christ to carry us along.

    Then like Job, we endlessly replay our situation and cry out to God 

    I'm no theologian, but one thing I know. Job let it all hang out with God. He expressed his pain and frustration and his not-knowing-ness in stark language.

    Job had reason to wail. Not long before he "had it all" and lost everything, including his seven sons and three daughters.

    All of them (Job 1.)

    Then came Job's health, another casualty. Everyone in his life blamed God, but never once did Job, even in his worst moments, curse God.

    That's why God does not punish Job for his honest outpourings of pain.

    If you've ever studied the book of Job you know that God finally spoke to Job in chapters 38-41.  

    Chapter 42 tells "the rest of the story," how God indeed brought Job through his time of suffering and blessed him with more sons and daughters and long life.

    God can bring us through our hard times, too

    Like every other human being on earth, believers have times of suffering. Christians died on 9/11 and countless Christians suffer and die right now as refugees from persecution. Every one of us knows someone with something.

    Pain and disease come not from God's hand, but because we live in a world messed up by sin ever since Genesis.

    It's the human condition.

    But when tragedy and trials come, one thing we know: God is for us.

    If you're living your own "9/11" right now, take heart!

    Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.               –Psalm 55:22 (NIV)  

    Surely God is my help; the Lord is the one who sustains me.                                                           – Psalm 54:4 (NIV) 
    I can do all things through him who strengthens me.                                                             –Philippians 4:13 (NIV)
    My friend, whether you're in a good place right now or in a pit of pain, here's my prayer for you:
    I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being . . .                                                                                 –Ephesians3:16 (NIV)
    Lovingly,
    Lenore
     
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  • Blog. Titanic 2. 11.10 marschall_-_rms_titanic_-_passage_to_eternity At first glance it seems like a reach to think there could be any connection between the Titanic and how you and I think. 

    Not true.

    The experts and the press pronounced the Titanic "invincible," even "unsinkable." They based these grandiose terms on the ship's new design. Its hull featured watertight compartments, so that even if the ship were damaged the water would be safely contained within compartments. 

    Except the compartments turned out not to be so watertight after all.  

    Soooo . . . What does that have to do with you and me? Just this. Every one of us can remember times when the unexpected made us crumple in pain. Pain in life is an inevitable part of being alive. We can't escape it any more than we can escape dust gathering on furniture.

    The only control we have is how we handle what comes into our lives. That's where the comparison to the Titanic comes in.

    A major factor in sinking the Titanic was that the water spilled over from one compartment into the next, all down the line. Our pain can slosh over into every part of our lives . . . unless we take control of it. What helps us stay afloat is to deliberately turn our thoughts to other people and other areas of our life, at least for part of the day.

    Otherwise our pain will cast a cloud over everything and everyone in our lives. If we let that happen we'll miss the moments of joy–and they're just as real as the pain.

    How do we do this? Centuries ago the Apostle Paul wrote these timeless words in Philippians 4:8:

    Finally, brothers [and sisters,] whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

    This verse is my go-to place when I feel overwhelmed. I read this listing again and again. Each time I feel calmed. It's like being reminded who I am and how I can reflect the Light within me into the dark places.

    Or, using the Titanic analogy, those words help keep my watertight compartments watertight. More than that. They point me to the God who never leaves us and who gives us peace in-the-midst (Philippians 4:9.)

    Question for you: What works for you? (Just click on the word "Comments" below.)

    Blessings and love,

    Lenore