Tag: Trusting God

  • It's that time again. Time to think and to thank

    Time to count up all the reasons we have to be thankful.

    Dreamstime_xs_121257669 (1)Even now. Even though. Even if our personal story is full of pain.  

    Like one young man I read about. I only have a few sentences of fact about his brief encounter with a friend, but here's how I imagine it have gone.  

    "Joel" suffered a freak accident that shattered his life in an instant. This once-strapping young man became a paraplegic for life. 

    When his best friend since childhood, "Kev," saw him for the first time he tried not to stare as he took in the finality of his buddy's situation. Joel would never walk again. 

    Then Kev heard himself blurt, "Isn't it strange how one day can color a whole life?" 

    "Yeah," Joel said and nodded. A moment later he flashed his old smile and said, "But I thank God that I still get to choose the colors."

    So do you and I. Thanks-living is a matter of the mind and heart. Our every-day attitude.

    Once we plug in that perspective it changes our view of life. And us. We stop bemoaning what's missing and start being glad for what is.  

    It helps to think about that original Thanksgiving   

    Start with The Mayflower. Forget modern ocean liners. This merchant ship measured only 64 feet long, about the distance from a baseball pitcher's mound to home plate. It traversed the Atlantic at a sizzling two miles an hour.  

    Those 102 Pilgrims were packed into the cargo hold, an area about half the size of a basketball court. Ceilings measured less than five feet high. Their group included 18 married couples and their children. Two wives were pregnant and one delivered her baby during the voyage.

    For 66 days and nights they endured limited space, little privacy, poor ventilation and scanty meals because they feared running out of food..

    At last, on November 11, 1620, the captain spotted Cape Cod and dropped anchor offshore in the New World.  

    No inns with warm rooms and cushy beds awaited them

    They had only The Mayflower to provide shelter from the endless unknown that stretched before them when they looked toward land. Fear stalked them but they dare not give in. 

    Because The Mayflower would sail back to England in spring, the men had no choice but to row to shore every day, whatever the weather. There they worked together to build basic shelter for their group, as well as for the chickens and pigs they brought with them.   

    They dug graves, too. Lots of them. By that first Thanksgiving only 50 of the 102 Pilgrims who left England remained alive. Only three of the 18 married couples still had both spouses.  

    Let that sink in. Imagine their heavy hearts as the survivors gathered to  celebrated their first harvest. They resolved to set aside their grief and together, thank God, the Giver. 

    He gives strength to the weary, and to him who lacks might, He increases power.  Isaiah 40:29

    Do we have what it takes to do the same?

    Not one of us has or will have a perfect life. You and I, too, survive because God enables us to keep breathing and gives strength for each day.

    Let's be on the alert for the good in life and be ready to acknowledge it. In people. In family members. It's always there, even in hard times. 

    In every situation we still get to choose our outlook and to speak the good word. No eloquence required, just the doing.

    Therefore, encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.  1 Thessalonians 5:11  

    Let's share our lessons learned

    Some of us never speak of our mistakes, as if we've skated along through life with never a rough spot. This may protect our egos, but it cheats our children and grandchildren.

    We can bless them by gently telling stories about our ups and downs and lessons learned–and how God brought us through. Were there times we "feasted" on Spam because we couldn't afford turkey? Pass on such tales, if only to show it's possible to rejoice and to laugh, even when life's not perfect.  

    Most importantly, as we share our stories, let's point to the Giver. 

    Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever!   Psalm 107:1

    When we thank God it reminds us we're not alone–and we never were

    Neither were the Pilgrims. Like us, they anguished over their pain and their losses, but they didn't camp there. They chose instead to focus on God's faithfulness through it all. 

    Can't we do the same?

    Start with "ordinary" things like the myriad colors in trees and plants and flowers. We take all that for granted, but what if our Creator had colored all of Nature in shades of grey?

    For each of us, if we truly take in what we see around us we'll understand why we can be thankful and can praise God.

    Even when life disappoints us and sadness won't lift. Even when time drags on and we can't see an end to the waiting. Even then. 

    For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.  John 3:16

    Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him, rooted and built up in him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving.  Colossians 2:6-7 

    Every day, let's hone in on the joy of what is, rather than to waste time yearning for "perfect."

    And let's remember that you and I "choose the colors" of our lives, too, every single day.

    Thanking God for you, dear unseen friend!

    Lenore

  • Maybe you've noticed this phrase here and there on gift shop plaques and posters and wondered where it came from.   

    Blog. Keep calm and carry on. 3.23It traces back to a motivational poster printed by the Government of the United Kingdom in 1939 as Hitler's troops were rapidly advancing through Europe and it seemed inevitable that Great Britain would be invaded.

    Some months later the Nazi Blitz actually began. A woman I knew was in her twenties at the time and worked in London office. She told of her experiences. "Night after night the Nazis rained bombs on London and other vital towns and seaports and mortars boomed. Every night we headed for the safest place to be, which was in a bomb shelter or in a subway (Tube) tunnel. Truth is, hardly anyone really slept.    

    "Our lives settled into a dreary, endless routine. When mornings finally came we dragged ourselves up to the streets and picked our way through the rubble, determined to carry on with our work as best we could."  

    Strangely, Hitler never invaded the British Isles. Even the keenest military experts never could explain why he didn't seize his advantage and put his troops on this island nation.

    Brits who believed in God proclaimed with confidence, "It is purely by grace, God's grace." 

    If we have eyes to see we'll know that explanation also fits our lives 

    As we comb through our personal history we find times when things "worked out," although we couldn't explain how or why.

    At some later point we may discern a sort of pattern we couldn't make sense of at the time. Perhaps we finally spot a connection in what had appeared to be haphazard occurrences. "Ah, coincidences," we say. 

    My friend, with our loving God and his people there are no "coincidences."

    Our bottom line is the same as Christians in all times have found to be true: It is by God's grace. Remember Romans 8:28?

    And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.  

    Did you catch that? ALL things 

    The goods. The bads. The boring hours that tick by too slowly.

    The growing and exciting times. The times we waited for a diagnosis and prayed for a miracle.  

    The will-this-never-end periods. The how-did-it-all-go-by-so-fast years. 

    ALL of it.

    You and I never will understand everything that comes into our lives. We cannot because only Almighty God is all-knowing. Only He knows the end before the beginning.

    As Christians we can be sure of this: Our gracious Lord loves us. HE will work all things together for our good. In His time. In His way.

    This is true even if it seems that right now, nothing in our life makes sense.

    All He asks of us is that we keep putting one foot in front of the other, keep trusting him and live our days in faith.

    Handholds for our hearts

    Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.–John 14:1  (ESV)

    But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."  –2 Corinthians 12:9a ESV

    Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.                              –Philippians 4:6-7  ESV

    Whatever is going on in our lives, in every moment of every day we have all we need.

    God still holds the world–and us–safe in the palm of His loving hand. This means you and I truly can Keep Calm and Carry On through whatever comes.

    Living it out, too, 

    Lenore

     

  • Sometimes God chooses unlikely ways to remind us we have a lot to be thankful for, doesn't He?

    Blog. 2 Men talking. Focus on joy. 5.15I won't forget the day I learned a lot by eavesdropping on someone else's conversation.

    Let me explain.

    One morning I stopped a local coffee shop and soon got jolted out of my private little pity party. (It wasn't much fun, anyway.) 

    The hostess seated me in a booth close to a table where two men seemed really intent on their conversation.  

    One man had a radio-announcer voice that carried, even though he spoke softly. I couldn't help overhearing and once he started talking I didn't want to miss a word. Besides, I wanted to finish my coffee and snack. I grabbed my trusty note pad and jotted down his key points.   

    Here's my best recap of his story

    "I have one brother, the only family I have left. We've never been close, but we talked by phone once in awhile. We lived a couple hundred miles apart, so we didn't know much about each other's lives, but that was okay with both of us. 

    "One day I got a call from a Child Welfare worker in his city. She told me the police arrested my brother and his wife for dealing drugs. They took his three children out of the house and turned them over to Child Welfare.

    "The social worker told me my brother's kids would go into foster care unless my wife and I took them. We were their only hope and she wanted an answer by the next day. I was speechless and my wife even more so. We talked and talked and cried and prayed half the night. At last we said Yes, thinking it would be short-term. 

    "Not so. Eventually my brother and his wife were convicted of running a drug ring and both got long prison sentences.  

    "It's been hard, hard, hard, even though we've talked to our pastor and friends many times and we've had family counseling. My 9-year old nephew adapted pretty well. My 11-year old niece keeps it all inside, but those two both call us Mom and Dad and really, that's what we are. We're the ones who are there and who will be there, and we love them. They all know that, even the 15-year old.

    "She still has nightmares. She rebels in just about every way she can dream up, no matter what we do. We're coming to think perhaps what she needs most is beyond our ability, maybe some kind of special mental-health treatment for awhile, to help her heal.  

    "We've prayed and tried to pour out love, but we've also failed in a lot of ways. I think I didn't really know much about talking to God before this upheaval in our lives. One thing I know, we wouldn't have made it without God giving us strength, minute-by-minute. Sometimes we've thought we couldn't keep on, but God has brought us this far, so we trust Him for the future.

    "Here's the wonderful surprise and extra blessing in all this. We missed seeing it for quite awhile. Then recently we thought back to the early days of our marriage when the doctors told us we never would have children of our own and we were crushed. Now here we are with three kids, two of them doing very well. Now we are at peace. In spite of all the pain, we have joy and we know we did the right thing."

    As I rose to leave I glanced at the men and saw they both had tears in their eyes. They matched my own.

    A change of heart 

    You won't be surprised to hear I walked out with a new perspective on challenges in my life, my heart brimming with thanks and praise.  

    • Thanks for that man and his wife who opened their home and their hearts and changed the lives–and the future–of three hurting youngsters. (And their own.)
    • Thanks to God for supplying the love and strength they needed to give of themselves, day by day, and not count the cost.
    • Thanks that they can see the blessings and joy hidden within their daily sacrifices.

    That conversation refocused my thinking in how to look at challenges in my life.

    Like that couple, let's open our eyes to the joy!  

    The Apostle Paul well knew personal suffering but he also knew how to find joy. I love the way he sums up his secret in Philippians 4:

    Rejoice in the Lord always, I will say it again: Rejoice! … Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

    Finally, brothers (and sisters) whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things . . . And the God of peace will be with you.                                                    (Selected from Phil. 4:4-9 NIV)

    "Rejoice!" It's not a suggestion, it's more like a must. An attitude we choose.

    "If anything is excellent or praiseworthy … " Paul is telling us that whatever comes we can search out some bit of excellence or cause for praise. IF we wear that mindset as we look for it rather than getting stuck in our problems and disappointments. IF we remind ourselves that our loving God never leaves us on our own. 

    We will find the good, not because we're so great, but because God is faithful to those who trust in Him.

    Trusting, too, 

    Lenore

  • "Signed, Sealed, Delivered, I'm Yours" is the title of a 1970 Stevie Wonder hit song. 

    Sounds like a quickie description of most romantic novels and movies, doesn't it? After endless challenges the two in love finally make it to THE wedding.

    image from awomansview.typepad.comThe chase is over, the vows are spoken and love and bliss without end. No more effort required. Guaranteed.

    File this under "Fairy Tales."

    You and I and every other human being star in our own reality show called "Life."

    Before long every real life couple comes to understand their wedding ceremony began a life of discovery, even when they thought they knew everything about each other beforehand.

    Surprises are as inevitable as mosquitos on a summer night

    Since each one keeps changing and growing for life, how could it be otherwise?  

    Think about typical life situations:

    Changes in financial situation, for whatever reason.  

    Switching jobs. Moving, perhaps because one spouse receives a great job offer.

    Health conditions, whether physical, mental or emotional. 

    Starting a family–or choosing not to.  

    Add in whatever issues may exist or arise within each one's extended family. 

    The love you started with is tested. Tried. Proven true and strong, whatever comes. Call it love in action, love with a purpose. 

    Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.   1 John 3:18

    A marriage is like an ocean liner

    The port side of a cruise ship cannot decide to head north while the starboard side chooses to head south. 

    Even in good strong marriages sometimes one spouse feels pulled toward a direction that leads the other to think, No way!  

    Any change of direction means unsettledness. My husband and I lived that a time or two.  

    We learned the value of simply talking to each other and also spending more time reading the Bible. Prayer–talking to God and honestly sharing our emotions helped keep us calm and at peace.  

    Sounds too simple, I know, but this reminded us that He knows the way ahead–and He promises never to leave us on our own.

    One particular time we contemplated a big change–and then lived it. We planned as carefully as we could. Then came a period of delays and disappointments. I hung on tight to Bible verses like Psalm 139:9-10, David's beautiful expression of trust in the faithful God he loved and worshiped:  

    If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.   

    Life can feel overwhelming at times 

    Times of unsettledness make us vulnerable to reciting various "what ifs, either to ourselves or to others." Steer clear of the "if-then" trap, too, even in self-talk.

    Often our only choice is how we will respond. One rule-of-thumb is start with refocus and trust, adjust to the present reality and grow some more. 

    Shore each other up with frequent gentle reminders that your love remains strong and stable. 

    Thread faith through every day. Turn your mind to promises that God is faithful and kind.

    And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.    Romans 8:28 

    Predictable causes of disharmony 

    One frequent issue, especially today, stems from one or the other spouse feeling they give more than the other. This quickly morphs into a joyless practice of checking off boxes and keeping score. 

    The idea that "we're in this together" flies out the window.

    This runs counter-intuitive to popular thinking, but the better choice is to choose the way of love.   

    Marriage was never intended to be a 50-50 arrangement, but rather 100-100. The attitude is that wife and husband each decide to give of themselves completely.

    Be flexible, each one ready to give and take as needs and situations change. This quiets the "You always" and "You never" arguments. Home becomes more the peaceful, loving place both yearn for it to be.  

    Easy? Never, but the Apostle Paul tells us how to love this way:

    With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.   Ephesians 4:2-3

    Every marriage unites two unique individuals 

    What works for you may not work for your best friends–and vice versa. That's okay. If your marriage and family are built on love, faith and mutual respect, be glad and thank God for His blessing.  

    Marriage teaches us a lot about ourselves and widens our understanding. It's good to keep talking, even when you don't want to. Otherwise the distance between you widens. 

    Strive always to look through each other's eyes rather than just your own.

    And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.   Colossians 3:14

    Every day counts

    Later in our marriage my husband and I understood that even our hard times were seasons of growing, individually and together. Growing stronger as a married couple. Finding peace within our relationship and our life. 

    Did it come naturally to us? No, but few worthwhile goals are easy.

    We came to see the deep wisdom and value of Jesus' words in Luke 6:31 as a prescription for every day:  

    "Do to others as you would have them do to you."

    This day-by-day effort brings rewards beyond the obvious

    Were we perfect? Never. Did we ever hit rough spots? Of course. All couples do. But we were in it for life, so that meant always trying to pull together and keep on loving.  

    Somehow we only partially understood that our children were watching us and listening to us–particularly when we weren't talking to them.  As adults they admitted this went on all through the years they were growing up. 

    Still, we did something right. At different times each one–now married themselves–told us that our marriage provided them the role model by which they related in their marriages.   

    Were we surprised? Oh, yes, and humbly thankful.  

    Humble? Yes

    We two ordinary people met and fell in love while we were still in high school and married a couple of years later.  

    What we had going for us was that we loved each other totally and each of us trusted Jesus as our Savior. We aimed to live out the faith we shared–and we had teachable hearts  

    Always, we prayed for guidance and our loving Lord never left us to struggle on our own. 

    He will do the same for any believer who asks.  

    Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.   James 1:17

    May you know His joy in your life, my friend,

    Lenore

  • Are you troubled, convinced the world is a mess and there is no hope, no beauty?

    Feast your eyes on God's handiwork one recent spring in a California canyon somewhere near San Luis Obispo. 

    Blog. Wildflowers by Bakersfield. 5.11   user207289_pic6271_1218133796

    (Sorry, photographer unknown.)

    I've loved this photo since I first saw it. I can't imagine a better visual for what Jesus said in Luke 12, starting at verse 22.

    "Therefore, I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes . . . Consider how the lilies grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these."

    Maybe you suffer from the same malady as I. Worry. Oh, I can call it something nicer, but really, it's worry.

    When I look at wildflowers, as in this photo, I feel the tightness in my shoulders ease up. The One who splashes these remote hills with extravagant beauty tenderly cares for all His creation.

    That includes you and me.

    Whatever we are dealing with today, we are not alone. The weight of the world does not rest on our shoulders. Count on it. His mercies are new every morning. (Lamentations 3:21-16)

    Every day mercies and blessings surround us. 

    Are we looking for them?

    Here's to having eyes to see,

    Lenore