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Does your heart start pounding when you watch or listen to the news?

Many of us know that feeling, because it’s obvious that emotions run high on all sides. Lots of speculation–and fear.

That makes it a good time to remind ourselves that our good old USA has been in turmoil before and this probably won’t be the last time that’s true. Whatever our current crises may be, this time likely will end up being another variation on an earlier period in U.S. history.

If you doubt that, just read this editorial from Harper’s Magazine. It appeared in their October 10, 1847, edition, 175 years ago.

(Please note at the time this was written it was socially and politically acceptable to use the term “man” to refer to all of humankind.)

It is a gloomy moment in history. Not in the lifetime of any man has there been so much grave and deep apprehension; never has the future seemed so dark and incalculable.

In France the political cauldron seethes and bubbles with uncertainty.

England and the British Empire are being sorely tried and exhausted in a social and economic struggle, with turmoil at home and uprising on her teeming millions in her far-flung Empire.

The United States is beset with racial, industrial and commercial chaos, drifting we know not where.

Russia hangs like a storm cloud on the horizon of Europe–dark, menacing and foreboding.

It is a solemn moment, and no man can feel indifference, which happily, no man pretends to feel in the issue of events.

Of our own troubles no man can see the end. …

What if we took that essay as encouragement instead of gloom?

History–all of it–is loaded with missteps and mistakes, repeated again and again. Yet the sun keeps rising and setting on schedule and so does the moon. God set it up that way.

Here are a few quotes and Scripture verses I pray would be heart-lifters for you as they are for me.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. –Franklin D. Roosevelt

[Jesus said] “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”

Cast all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. –1 Peter 5:7

Courage is fear that has said its prayers. –Dorothy Bernard

May you find JOY in your day-to-day,

Lenore

Take Heart! The USA Will Endure

May 29, 2025
Have you ever sunk into feeling sorry for yourself?

I confess to being, um, a little bit familiar with that unfortunate state of mind.

Like the time my husband got transferred in his work. He had studied and worked hard, hoping a move up would come through–and it did. He couldn't stop smiling.

I was happy for him, truly I was, but I couldn't quite share his exhilaration. I grieved inwardly about leaving our friends and the community I loved.

My sweet husband? "Yes, but Honey, you know I can start right in and you read the contract. We'll be okay."

Logic told me he was right, but logic didn't change my heart. Yet I absolutely knew God arranged this position for my husband, so …

I kept reminding myself surely He would have something good waiting for me, too.

But what? Where?

Once the moving truck unloaded our stuff in our new home, well, you know the routine.

Right away my husband had a "place" in our new community. He packed his days with appointments and meeting new people. I kept busy unpacking boxes and finding a place for this and for that. At last it felt more like our home, at least inside our four walls.

Every day I pored over the local newspaper, trying to get a fix on the place we were living. One day I noticed a small listing for a community non-denominational women's Bible study. What did I have to lose?

The next day I grabbed my Bible and drove to the host church. To my surprise and delight, parked cars stretched for blocks in all directions.

Near the closing time all our small groups gathered in the auditorium so the teaching leader could expound on our assigned lesson from the Bible book of Exodus. She vividly recounted the story of God freeing the Israelites from captivity in Egypt.

That day the familiar story from Sunday School sounded brand-new to my heart.

The marvel of God's power

You may remember how God set the children of Israel free from slavery in Egypt. Soldiers in chariots came after them all the way to the Red Sea, but before they got there, God parted the waters so His people could walk on dry land across the seabed.

Once the Israelites were safely across, God released the waters. The pursuing Egyptians, along with their horses and chariots, were lost.

Now God's people were free, but all they saw around them was dry desert and wilderness, but God did not abandon His people. He provided Manna every morning and flocks of quail every twilight, plus pure water.

And yet the people grumbled.

Exodus 16 tells us they looked back fondly to Egypt–and slavery–because they liked the food better.

The truth that hit home

In her talk our study leader kept looking around the room to be sure we all felt included. Then came her concluding applications. It seemed she looked right at me when she asked, "Are you wandering around in a dry, dusty wilderness of your own making?"

I gulped. Then she asked, "Are you murmuring against God because the specifications of your life are not exactly as you would choose?"

She couldn't have known, but her words described exactly how I felt about our new life, the one God had given us.

That day nothing changed, but everything changed.

Once I took my eyes off Poor Pitiful Me and looked for the good in our new situation I found quite a lot.

My husband said he got his wife back–and here I thought he hadn't noticed.

I've never forgotten that lesson: Look for the good, whatever the situation

Recently I ran across an old prayer I've loved for years, ever since I happened on it in a souvenir shop.

The original was found folded and tattered in the pocket of an unknown Confederate soldier, a casualty in the U.S. Civil War, 1865:

I asked God for strength, that I might achieve;

    I was made weak, that I might learn humbly to obey.

I asked for health, that I might do greater things;

    I was given infirmity, that I might do better things.

I asked for riches, that I might be happy;

    I was given poverty, that I might be wise.

I asked for power, that I might have the praise of men;

    I was given weakness, that I might feel the need of God.

I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life;

    I was given life, that I might enjoy all things.

I got nothing that I asked for, but everything I hoped for.

    I am among all men most richly blessed.

Those simple, eloquent words still touch my heart every time I read them because they remind me of all the times I, too, got "nothing that I asked for, but everything I hoped for."

I wish I could say I never lost sight of that truth, but one thing I know for sure. When I focus on the Giver's goodness it's much easier to keep a sunny mood.

My friend, I pray that you find many blessings in each day!

Lenore

Change Your Life By Changing Your Mindset

May 14, 2025
Talking heads keep telling us of falling birth rates.

They often state that today's couples want "experiences" instead of–or before–having children.

Ask any mom or dad and they'll tell you parenting brings one experience after the other. All day. Every day. Right?

It offers lots of laughs, too, if we get our egos out of the way. Check it out for yourself by reading these real answers to real questions given to a group of second-graders. (Sorry, I don't know when or where.)

Question 1. Why do we have mothers?

  1. She's the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
2. Mostly to clean the house.
3. To help us out of there when we were getting born.

Question 2. How did God make mothers?


    1. He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
    2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
    3. God made my mom just the same like he made me. He just used bigger parts.

Question 3. What ingredients are mothers made of?

    1. God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and everything nice in the world and one dab of mean.
    2. They had to get their start from men's bones. Then they mostly use string, I think.

Question 4. Why did God give you your mother and not some other mom?

    1. We're related.
    2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's moms like me.

Question 5. What kind of a little girl was your mom?

    1. My mom has always been my mom and none of that other stuff.
    2. I don't know because I wasn't there, but my guess would be pretty bossy.
    3. They say she used to be nice.

Question 6. What did mom need to know about dad before she married him?

    1. His last name.
    2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does he get drunk on beer?
    3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES to chores?

Question 7. Why did your mom marry your dad?

    1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my mom eats a lot.
    2. She got too old to do anything else with him.
    3. My grandma says that mom didn't have her thinking cap on.

Question 8. Who's the boss at your house?

    1. Mom doesn't want to be boss, but she has to because dad's such a goof ball.
    2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff under the bed.
    3. I guess mom is, but only because she has a lot more to do than dad.

Question 9. What's the difference between moms and dads?

    1. Moms work at work and work at home and dads just go to work at work.
    2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
    3. Dads are taller and stronger, but moms have all the real power 'cause that's who you got to ask if you want to sleep over at your friends.

    4. Moms have magic, they make you feel better without medicine.

Question 10. What does your mom do in her spare time?

    1. Mothers don't do spare time.
    2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.

Question 11. What would it take to make your mom perfect?

    1. On the inside she's already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of plastic surgery.
    2. Diet. You know, her hair. I'd diet, maybe blue.

Question 12. If you could change one thing about your mom, what would it be?

    1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get rid of that.
    2. I'd make my mom smarter. Then she would know it was my sister who did it not me.
    3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on the back of her head.

Do you feel better? Good, me too

Laughter and smiles are good for us, as Proverbs 17:22 tells us, here from The Message: A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person's strength.

What's more, children absorb their mom's attitude just as a sponge soaks up water, especially in their early years. Happy mama, happy kids.

(It works that way with the rest of the family, too, whatever their ages.)

Wishing you JOY–in your day-to-day and especially on Mother's Day!

With love,

Lenore

All About Moms, As Seen By Their Children

May 10, 2025
Most of us have said it at some time: “He/she makes me so mad!”

We’re not hotheads, you and I, but you know how it goes. “Some people” just won’t cooperate.

Won’t face the truth.

Won’t see it our way.

What then? It can feel good to spew forth a stream of complaints and reasons why we are right. We tell ourselves we’re vindicated and pat ourselves on the back for being strong.

That lasts a few delicious moments.

But . . .

Angry, careless words can be costly, especially in a marriage. They quickly poison the atmosphere between husband and wife.

Divide families.

End friendships.

Put up walls between people that can stay in place for generations.

So what do we do?

This is the time to swallow hard and take our own advice, like the logic we repeat to our children and younger friends. Who hasn’t said something like: “Nobody else makes you mad. You choose it. Any time you get mad, she (or he) wins.”

That’s true, but it’s hard to stay unruffled when someone–of any age–is pushing our buttons. Some of us learned this truth the hard way and know when we “lose it,” we shrink our personal power.

Every healthy relationship thrives on give-and-take and mutual respect, which allows each one to hang onto their self-esteem.

Verbal attacks usually feel satisfying in the moment–and may even be well-justified, but in the end, they tarnish and tear down.

Well, nobody’s perfect

Yes, but any of us can up our score if we’re willing to seek help. Professional counselors are available in every community, but often what makes us hesitate is wondering whom we can trust.

Talk to your pastor first. They’re good listeners and many are good counselors. They also can offer names of trusted professional counselors. That’s preferable to simply picking a name from Internet listings and profiles.

Always, the wisdom of Scripture provides a solid base. Take Proverbs 15:1, for example:

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

For years I considered that to be a bit wimpy, a lot like “put up and shut up.”

I know now that responding with gentleness to another person’s anger takes a lot of inner strength, the exact opposite of weakness.

We live in the world and people notice what we do and say

Living out that principle should be easiest with people we know best and love most, but sometimes home is where we most often “get on each other’s nerves”.

Yet home is the proving ground and it determines whether we’re genuine. Our words need to match our deeds or our words don’t ring true. Even when we’re angry we are to treat others with respect.

Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth. 1 John 3:18

How do we hang onto our power? Jesus told his followers how in Luke 6:31:

“And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.”

The Better Way

Don’t get me wrong. We’re human beings, after all, which ensures we will stumble and slip even in a strong friendship or a happy marriage. Despite our good intentions, sometimes we’ll still feel that urge to let ‘er rip.

Always, the best strategy is to:

Remind ourselves of the other person’s good qualities

Remember the good times and talk about them

Pray for healing

Like a broken bone that mends, your relationship can come through stronger than before.

Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32

Differences can be a plus

Perhaps a wife and husband come to realize they are opposites. Then what?

First, last and always, talk things through, even though it’s hard. Some counselors advise couples to hold hands and look each other in the eye while you hash it out. Be honest, but be kind. No name-calling.

Would you be surprised to know that over time, many couples find that each one comes to appreciate qualities in the other that once irritated them?

Put another way, two “opposites” can complement each other. As one wise advisor worded it, the two fill in each other’s missing places. Together such a couple becomes “more” than either spouse could be on their own.

Be patient, remembering this can’t be an overnight fix. Give it time as you learn to know each other–and yourself–better and trust each other more.

Power comes from knowing who we are and having ourselves under control

That flies contrary to today’s opinions, doesn’t it? Think about those you know whom you consider “powerful”. Aren’t those qualities on display?

When that’s our customary temperament and behavior we can be described as “self-possessed”. Merriam-Webster.com defines that term this way: “control of one’s emotions or reactions especially when under stress”

That sums it up, don’t you think?

For me as a Christian, the wisest words on how to live–in every situation–always can be found in what Jesus said in Matthew 7:12 and again in Luke 6:31:

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

Wishing you JOY in your day-to-day,

Lenore
Hang on to your personal power!

May 1, 2025
Maybe you think that's impossible in your situation.

But what if it were true? Would you trade how you feel about your life now for deep-down, unshakable peace, no matter what comes?

I write this as we near the end of what Christians call the Lenten season and nearing Easter.

You may be thinking, So what? That means nothing to me except chocolate eggs and bunnies. Silliness, really.

Let's set that aside and concentrate on why Christians have celebrated Easter for centuries.

Not for treats but to remember the reason for it all.

Let's start with a brief recap

The first pages of the Bible recount how God created what we call the natural world out of nothing. (Genesis 1)

Genesis 2 tells about God creating Adam and Eve, the first two human beings. They lived in a beautiful garden and were completely at ease with their Heavenly Father. We would say, they had it all.

God laid down only one condition: Do not touch or eat the fruit of this one tree in the middle of the garden or you will die.

Then came the Devil, who spoke through the serpent. He planted doubt. (Doesn't he always?) Eve tasted the fruit and found it good, so she gave some to Adam and he, too, turned away from the Father who loved them. (Genesis 3)

Their disobedience changed everything–for them and their descendants–that's us–even to this day.

What does this have to do with me?

We all know how often we fail to live up to even our own standards. (Remember those New Year's resolutions?)

What about after we die? Most people say they want to live a good life and many think if they "do the right thing" enough of their life they will make it into Heaven.

Yet our best efforts fall short because God's desire is that we be holy, because he is holy (Leviticus 19:2.) That means to be utterly good, in thought, word and deed, 24 hours a day throughout our lifetimes. Anything else is called "sin."

You and I know we couldn't achieve that, no matter how hard we tried.

Even so, God never stopped loving. That's what Christmas is all about. The human baby born to Mary in Bethlehem, was the Son of God, and Joseph was to be his human father. (Luke, chapters 1-2)

That Baby was human, born to a human mother, but he was also God. (Luke 1:35)

So why did he die on a cross?

Let's get this straight first: Jesus was not overwhelmed and captured by those soldiers in the Garden of Gethsemane. He went with them willingly, all while knowing what would follow.

This God-man came to earth to set things right between us human beings and God. Jesus, who never sinned, allowed Himself to be nailed to the cross. For you, for me. It was all part of God's plan.

God made Him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God. 2 Corinthians 5:21

In [Christ] we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace. Ephesians 1:7

Jesus died on a cross, yes, but there is more to it

If you haven't known it before, you can read the whole story in the Gospel of John, chapters 19-21.

Yes, Jesus died to pay the price for all our sins, past, present and future.

But … he rose again!

After three days in the tomb he reappeared to his followers many times. He interacted and talked with them and ate regular food with them.

Jesus even invited Thomas to touch his wounds because Thomas couldn't believe what his friends were saying.

No wonder his followers were overjoyed

You and I can share in that joy. Because Jesus lives eternally, every person who trusts and believes in him as their Lord and Savior also has eternal life.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish, but have eternal life.                                                                                     John 3:16

"Whoever" includes all who believe. Period.

That's why Christians celebrate Easter

It's all about love. Love that kept Jesus there on the cross. Love that never fails or walks away when we're hurting. Love that brings us joy, even in our lowest times.

This gift is available to every one of us, ours for the taking and the trusting. Will we accept it and choose to walk with the One who loves us this much?

I'm praying for you, dear invisible friends,

Lenore

Are You Longing for More Life in Your Life?

April 18, 2025
You may be thinking that sounds great but you've never held an important job or been celebrated for anything.

How could that be true? Meet my long-ago friend Alice. This tiny, smiling woman–barely 5 feet tall and walking with a cane–saw herself as "nothing special."

Yet when Alice died, six employees from the local Post Office attended her memorial–in uniform. One stood up to tell how much they all would miss their friend.

"What we get mostly is people complaining about this or that. But when sweet Alice breezed in, we all smiled. Every week or two she brought us a heaping platter of her delicious homemade cookies.

"I asked her once why she did it and she said, 'Well, I love to bake up my old recipes and I end up with a lot. So I just share the extras. Besides, you people bring me my mail every day, in every kind of weather. This is just me saying, Thanks and God bless you, all of you!'

"She always called out a jaunty Hello to the people working behind the counter, too. I tell you, Alice brought sunshine in with her and every one of us will miss her!"

He blotted his eyes all the way back to his seat.

The small-town newspaper editor spoke next and told how he loved reading Alice's thoughtful letters.

After him came the high school principal, "I keep an open file folder labeled 'Alice' just to hang on to her notes of encouragement to our teachers and to me. She had no special reason, usually. That was just Alice."

Next came her neighbor, sniffling and wiping her eyes. "Alice shared everything. Hugs of encouragement. Roses from her backyard, homemade pie sometimes and of course, her famous chocolate walnut cookies.

Then a young man told how Alice always seemed to sense when he needed to talk and best of all, she always made time to listen.

A time or two her encouragement and faith were the only things that kept him in school.

Your life matters more than you can guess

I knew Alice and I promise you she wouldn't have taken cookies to her local Post Office just so some employee would come to her memorial and speak well of her.

Alice was just being Alice and living out what she read and studied in the Bible. She often told our small Bible study group how thankful she was for life.

She counted blessings, big and "small," as in, "God has blessed me so bountifully! I thank him every day that I can still walk around and my eyes still let me see the beauty in this world God created."

Alice reminded us nearly every week to lift up people around us. "God created every human being to be one-of-a-kind, so let's be encouragers. Nobody has an easy life."

Then she would say, "Every small kindness leaves its mark."

None of us are "ordinary"

We may suppose we live insignificant lives. Not so!

For instance, if you're a mom or dad, as you every day interact with your children, you influence how they look at life.

They will see the world through your eyes long before they form an opinion of their own. You write the script for how they think of God, how they view authority and for how they love–or don't know how to love.

By the way, we parents do not lose our influence just because our children have reached adulthood. Yes, our grown children live their own lives, but most times, they (perhaps secretly) care what we think.

More importantly, they still watch to see whether we live out what we tell them is important.

Whether they see us as friend or critic is up to us, more than to them.

Each of us is like a stone tossed into a lake

Every one of us leaves ripples that travel far beyond ourselves.

Never discount your importance in the lives of the people around you. You matter in ways you may never know. Just as water can wear away stone, so our small deeds, over and over, carry a lasting effect.

If we tuck that point-of-view in the back of our minds we'll become more aware. More alert for ways we can touch and encourage others along the way.

Alice would say, "Keep your eyes on Jesus. He's the One who keeps us going and shows us how to live here in our little corner of the world. If we just follow Him we'll know what to do."

"Do to others as you would have them do to you." Luke 6:31

Therefore, encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11

That covers it, don't you think?

May you have JOY in your day-to-day!

Lenore

How to be a world-changer

March 27, 2025
We all know someone who never seems to rate much attention, even though they deserve it.

I love the true story I heard about a woman like that, let's call her Martha. She lived in a tiny town in the middle of logging country and belonged to a very small church.

The church might be small but everyone pitched in to do whatever needed doing. Martha, well, not so much.

She always gave the same reason why she never taught Sunday School or Bible class or sang in the small choir: "When the good Lord was passing out gifts, he passed right over me. You don't want me to try teaching, believe me. And I can't carry a tune, just ask anyone who ever sat next to me in church.

"Guess I'm a follower, not a leader and I like it that way."

Still, Martha never missed a worship service or a church event and at potlucks, people gobbled up her tasty dishes. Meanwhile, she would be out in the kitchen, washing dishes and wiping counters and sweeping the floor.

That's probably why people knew her face, but couldn't remember her name.

When Martha moved away hardly anyone noticed

What they did notice a couple of weeks after she left was that problems kept cropping up. The Sunday "coffee guy" said, "This place is falling apart! I came to put the coffee on, like I always do, and there's no coffee to put in the coffeemaker. Whose job is it to buy the extra supplies?"

Then one of the women blustered in and said, "I can't find any toilet paper or paper towels in the storage cabinet! This never happened before. Now what am I supposed to do?"

The resident wise guy happily added his two cents worth: "And whoever is supposed to sweep the sidewalks is falling down on the job! What's going on around here?"

You're way ahead of me, aren't you?

The common denominator was Martha, the I-have-no-gifts-or-talents lady. Before, she always took care of keeping supplies on hand. Quietly, on her own.

She lived close to the church so she could come and go while the pastor kept office hours. Hardly anyone ever noticed her. When the pastor at last heard the complaints he made it known how this one unassuming woman with the gentle smile faithfully ministered to everyone else.

And he added, she didn't do it for applause, but out of love.

Perhaps you're a little–or a lot–like Martha

You go around blessing the people around you and never look for praise.

Maybe you think you have no "place"–or if you do, it's way at the bottom of the pecking order

However we spend our days, here's a short poem we each can take to heart;

YOUR PLACE

Is your place a small place?

Tend it with care!–

He set you there.

Is your place a large place?

Guard it with care!

He set you there.

Whate'er your place, it is

Not yours alone, but His

Who set you there.

–John Oxenham

Whatever we do, wherever we are in life, it's not by chance

We all feel like "little people" from time to time. That doesn't matter unless we brood over it and think we should receive more recognition. What matters is what our Lord thinks of us because He knows our hearts and knows our motives.

Here's encouragement to hang onto in every situation:

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.

Ephesians 2:10

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you."

Jeremiah 29:11-12

Wishing you JOY in your day-to-day!

Lenore

In Praise of The “Little People” Who Make This World Better

March 19, 2025
Did you ever notice how reality can poke holes in our positive outlook on life?

As when we're patting ourselves on the back for something and right away, our self-image takes a nose-dive.

Maybe I drop a cup of coffee and have to clean up the mess. Or I hit the wrong key and delete a piece of writing I'd been working on. More often, it's my balky computer acting up.

Small things, really. Just the drip, drip, drip of daily life.

Some days such "small things"–for no particular reason–feel like the proverbial straw the camel couldn't manage.

"Minor" can feel major when we're already maxed out on coping

Think of someone you know who's been slogging through hard territory for awhile and they're worn out. Every day it takes all they've got just to keep going. They seldom complain, but you can see it in their eyes.

It's not that they lack faith or internal strength. They're simply exhausted from pushing themselves to keep going.

It may be a person who every day deals with an illness or a health challenge that goes on and on. Or they may be the caregiver for a loved one.

If we pay careful attention we get glimpses of their inner struggles.

Just living our lives can take everything we've got

A lot of moms and dads feel weary to the bone. Some are able to work from home and thankful for that, but it's never easy in the midst of family life. Dedicated parents who try to home-school their kids often feel maxed out on coping.

Besides all that, the future feels uncertain, even in the best of times.

Through it all, loving husbands and wives and moms and dads try to be all bright and shiny for their spouses and their children.

In every situation we get to choose

Are you facing a challenge right now and feel pushed to your limits?

We've all been there at some time in life. Some of us are good at lecturing ourselves to be courageous, to never show strain, etc.

(That seldom helps, does it?)

I've come to realize that the quiet people who just keep doing what they have to do–whatever the reason–are the real heroes of life.

A couple of years ago I found this quote and it changed the way I thought about the meaning of strength. Perhaps it will speak to your heart, too.

Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing to do; but to hold it together when everyone would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength. -Unknown

Always, it's the same question: Now what?

If that's our life, how are we to endure?

To paraphrase that old song, we "pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and start all over again."

How do we do that? For me it's by making myself slow down so I open my eyes to what is, rather than bemoaning what's lost.

If we tune our hearts to see and hear we'll notice the small joys that punctuate every day.

Most of life consists of the ordinary and routine. If that sounds dull, turn the coin over and realize it's also comfortable and reassuring.

The trick is to rejoice over what is

Don't stop there. Let's make the most of what we have while we have it. It's as the writer of Psalm 118 put it, in verse 24:

This is the day that the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

Every morning we can rejoice because God is with us another day. Then tomorrow, we do it all over again.

Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. –Philippians 4:6-7 LNT

That's the only way I know to have more "up" days and fewer of the other kind.

(Working on living this, too,)

Lenore

Don’t let a string of “down days” get you down

February 13, 2025
Someone wise said the only people who know all about rearing kids are the ones who never had any.

I found that to be true and I'll bet you have, too.

Not long after we hold our first child any illusion that little ones effortlessly fit into our plans vanishes like a puff of smoke. Fact: Babies and children of any age change everything.

No wonder being a mom–or a dad–often feels like groping our way through a cave with barely a glimmer of light.

We stumble. We sweat fear. We pray, never quite sure we're on the right path. We never lose sight of the fact that the people we love most are depending on us.

So we carry on, loving our kids the best we can and coping the best way we know how.

Most of all we keep on praying.

It's a wonder-full, wearying way to live

Forget those "experts" and celebrity parents on TV who ooze love and joy. Somehow they conveniently forget to mention the size of their staff and how many nannies they employ.

Who hasn't watched one of those movies or TV shows where the nannies bring the oh-so-adored children in to join the the adults for a time, like 15 minutes or half an hour. (Betcha any one of us could be wise and joyful for limited time periods …)

Real-life parents mostly make do on their own. And get tired. Exhausted, really. Tired of coping. Tired of putting everyone else first.

I remember when our girls were young. I found myself in a long gray spell and couldn't put my finger on the why of it or shed the heaviness that weighed me down.

Then I ran across a rhyme

Just two lines, but they shocked me into right thinking:

Two men looked out through prison bars;

One saw mud, the other saw stars

That simple couplet spoke truth to my heart. As never before, I realized that what I "saw" and how I judged it came from inside me.

No matter what the situation, always, I choose what I focus on and how I call it. So do you.

At first I didn't like knowing that, but then I realized the power of it.

We all live our lives one moment at a time. How we see it and how we call it is up to us.

So look up and take heart

Whatever problems you face right now, however overwhelmed you may feel, you never walk alone. Not in this moment. Not in any future moment–unless you want to.

If today you need a shot of encouragement, many of us Christians especially love this Bible verse because we know by experience this promise is true:

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

So take a deep breath, smile and put on your "God-Glasses." The last chapter of your life–and your children's lives, whatever their ages–has yet to be written.

Why not choose to see what's good and focus on His mighty power within you–and them? And don't forget to thank the Giver.

Trust me, that small adjustment can make a big difference–for you personally and for your family. I know this is true because I've lived it–and it's still my daily goal.

I'm thankful for you, dear reader. Thanks for stopping by!

Lenore

About being a parent–and how we look at our lives

February 5, 2025
Maybe it's just me, but I sometimes feel ho-hum about life, even without specific complaints. How about you?

Perking up would not be hard, that is, if I got serious and dug in.

But within a week or so I always sink back into my comfortable rut and life goes on as before.

(Sigh.)

Then a simple way to make big changes dropped into my lap

One January Sunday our pastor surprised us all. After ending his sermon he asked the ushers to pass out the blank index cards he'd given them earlier, one for each person present.

Then he said, "It's time we all set priorities for the year ahead. But don't worry, I'll keep it simple.

"First number your cards, 1, 2, 3, no more. Then in 15 words or less write not what you hope will happen or what you want to happen, but what you will do to make this a better year. Use action words so you can remember. Got it? Okay, you have five minutes. Go!"

About minute four, I scribbled:

See the good

Speak the good

Do the good

(Yes, I know that's not good grammar.)

When the timer beeped he said, "Stop! Take your card home and tape it up at eye level where you can't help seeing it. Then whenever you see that card, read your words aloud and ask God's help to carry them out.

"Now let's pray: Lord, we cannot change on our own. Inspire each of us to put into action what you just planted in our minds. Make us faithful and bless our efforts, we pray. Amen."

Later that day I taped my card on "my side" of our bathroom wall mirror, all the while thinking, End of story, I'll bet.

Or maybe not

I decided to at least try, so over the next weeks every time I looked in the mirror I read my words again and prayed, "Lord, help me, please."

I didn't expect much, but God surprised me. I could not shake those words. I heard them when another driver took the parking space I just spotted.

Would I fuss and fume or would I see the good? After all, I had a few minutes to spare and a car to drive, thank God. Another parking place would open up, so why get bent out of shape?

Those ten words drummed in my mind with relationships, too, as when my friend forgot we had arranged to meet for coffee and good talk.

When she called to apologize I could play the victim or I could see the good (she simply forgot.) I could speak the good ("Oh, it's all right. I know you have a lot on your mind right now.") I could do the good by setting another time to meet and telling her how much our friendship meant to me.

I found those simple phrases even affected chance encounters, as when a clerk seemed snippy.

I could walk out angry, muttering my frustration. Or I could see the good, understanding the clerk might be distracted because of serious personal issues. I could do the good by smiling and speak the good by thanking her for her help.

I left that card on the mirror all year because it reminded me how I wanted to live my life.

And little by little, with God's help, I did change.

Here we are with fresh new calendars for a fresh new year. How will we choose to live it?

Each of us will carry different burdens as we journey on and tough times may arise, but we are never alone. When we trust in Jesus He promises to be with us, every moment of every day.

This year I want to remember words of strength like these:

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. –1 Peter 5:7

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. –Isaiah 41:10

I can do everything through him who gives me strength. —Philippians 4:13

Why not try my simple "formula" for yourself?

I'm no expert, but I pass on this "off the cuff" formula for one reason only. I know it can work if we take it to heart. (And I'm considering this a reminder/refresher for myself, too.)

See the good

Speak the good

Do the good

Wishing you all the best, dear readers, as we keep learning and growing together,

Lenore
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