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  • It's that time again. Time to think and to thank

    Time to count up all the reasons we have to be thankful.

    Dreamstime_xs_121257669 (1)Even now. Even though. Even if our personal story is full of pain.  

    Like one young man I read about. I only have a few sentences of fact about his brief encounter with a friend, but here's how I imagine it have gone.  

    "Joel" suffered a freak accident that shattered his life in an instant. This once-strapping young man became a paraplegic for life. 

    When his best friend since childhood, "Kev," saw him for the first time he tried not to stare as he took in the finality of his buddy's situation. Joel would never walk again. 

    Then Kev heard himself blurt, "Isn't it strange how one day can color a whole life?" 

    "Yeah," Joel said and nodded. A moment later he flashed his old smile and said, "But I thank God that I still get to choose the colors."

    So do you and I. Thanks-living is a matter of the mind and heart. Our every-day attitude.

    Once we plug in that perspective it changes our view of life. And us. We stop bemoaning what's missing and start being glad for what is.  

    It helps to think about that original Thanksgiving   

    Start with The Mayflower. Forget modern ocean liners. This merchant ship measured only 64 feet long, about the distance from a baseball pitcher's mound to home plate. It traversed the Atlantic at a sizzling two miles an hour.  

    Those 102 Pilgrims were packed into the cargo hold, an area about half the size of a basketball court. Ceilings measured less than five feet high. Their group included 18 married couples and their children. Two wives were pregnant and one delivered her baby during the voyage.

    For 66 days and nights they endured limited space, little privacy, poor ventilation and scanty meals because they feared running out of food..

    At last, on November 11, 1620, the captain spotted Cape Cod and dropped anchor offshore in the New World.  

    No inns with warm rooms and cushy beds awaited them

    They had only The Mayflower to provide shelter from the endless unknown that stretched before them when they looked toward land. Fear stalked them but they dare not give in. 

    Because The Mayflower would sail back to England in spring, the men had no choice but to row to shore every day, whatever the weather. There they worked together to build basic shelter for their group, as well as for the chickens and pigs they brought with them.   

    They dug graves, too. Lots of them. By that first Thanksgiving only 50 of the 102 Pilgrims who left England remained alive. Only three of the 18 married couples still had both spouses.  

    Let that sink in. Imagine their heavy hearts as the survivors gathered to  celebrated their first harvest. They resolved to set aside their grief and together, thank God, the Giver. 

    He gives strength to the weary, and to him who lacks might, He increases power.  Isaiah 40:29

    Do we have what it takes to do the same?

    Not one of us has or will have a perfect life. You and I, too, survive because God enables us to keep breathing and gives strength for each day.

    Let's be on the alert for the good in life and be ready to acknowledge it. In people. In family members. It's always there, even in hard times. 

    In every situation we still get to choose our outlook and to speak the good word. No eloquence required, just the doing.

    Therefore, encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.  1 Thessalonians 5:11  

    Let's share our lessons learned

    Some of us never speak of our mistakes, as if we've skated along through life with never a rough spot. This may protect our egos, but it cheats our children and grandchildren.

    We can bless them by gently telling stories about our ups and downs and lessons learned–and how God brought us through. Were there times we "feasted" on Spam because we couldn't afford turkey? Pass on such tales, if only to show it's possible to rejoice and to laugh, even when life's not perfect.  

    Most importantly, as we share our stories, let's point to the Giver. 

    Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever!   Psalm 107:1

    When we thank God it reminds us we're not alone–and we never were

    Neither were the Pilgrims. Like us, they anguished over their pain and their losses, but they didn't camp there. They chose instead to focus on God's faithfulness through it all. 

    Can't we do the same?

    Start with "ordinary" things like the myriad colors in trees and plants and flowers. We take all that for granted, but what if our Creator had colored all of Nature in shades of grey?

    For each of us, if we truly take in what we see around us we'll understand why we can be thankful and can praise God.

    Even when life disappoints us and sadness won't lift. Even when time drags on and we can't see an end to the waiting. Even then. 

    For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.  John 3:16

    Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him, rooted and built up in him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving.  Colossians 2:6-7 

    Every day, let's hone in on the joy of what is, rather than to waste time yearning for "perfect."

    And let's remember that you and I "choose the colors" of our lives, too, every single day.

    Thanking God for you, dear unseen friend!

    Lenore

  • Let me pass on a lesson I learned along the way–and isn't that the way we all learn?   

    I'm making progress because awhile back a new friend said, "You always wear the hint of a  smile. What's Dreamstime_xs_40781191your secret?"

    I thanked her for that delightful compliment, of course. Right then I couldn't come up with anything better than a glib "Well, I guess I have a lot to smile about." 

    Later on an incident from years ago popped into my head and suddenly I knew the answer to that question.

    It sounds strange, but sometimes big truth comes from unlikely sources.

    On that ordinary, life-changing day I was so completely focused on my list I didn't really look at the other shoppers milling around me

    That is, not until one of them stopped me by tapping me on the shoulder. The tiny elderly lady looked concerned as she said, "'Excuse me, Honey, but you look so sad I had to stop. Is there anything I can do for you?"

    Sad? Me? Baffled, I said something like, "I'm sorry, ma'am, but what do you mean?"

    "Well, judging by the expression on your face, I figure you must be dealing with something really heavy. I'm so sorry! Just wanted to tell you things hardly ever are as bad as they seem. So cheer up, Dearie, and never, ever  give up hope!" 

    With that she smiled again, then patted my shoulder and scurried away.   

    I stood there speechless

    All I could think was, what on earth was she talking about?

    A few steps later I ran into my reflection on a mirrored pillar near me and took a hard look. I did look, well, grim. As much as I hated to admit it to myself that little lady wasn't exaggerating.

    I heard her words in my mind for days. So did the question that refused to be stilled: What do I communicate to others around me?

    Always before I thought of myself as a happy person. Now I couldn't escape the obvious: That's probably not the message the people around me picked up. 

    What could I do? 

    I decided to start with the way I deliberately set my lips, even when I was alone.  

    Just as importantly I would pay attention to the words coming out of my mouth. 

    Now I had a plan. From that moment on I would 

    • wear a happy expression
    • look for the good and
    • speak encouragement.

    I soon decided that wouldn't matter unless I lived it. If I wanted this to become a habit, my new behavior had to be all day, every day.

    So I paid careful attention to the expression I wore. To my surprise, before long I didn't need to remind myself so often.  

    I also concentrated on looking for and speaking the good. Soon that became more routine, too–but I still have to watch myself.

    Always, always it's easier to sink into a down mood than to stay in an up mood.

    Nothing changed, but everything changed

    Before long I realized I was more fun to be around, even for myself. My same old, same old life felt happier, too.

    Could it be this simple?

    All I know is that old song holds some real meaning:  

    "Put on a happy face…and you will be happy, too." 

    It's not the whole truth, for sure, but it's a beginning. 

    Like that tiresome saying, you can't journey a thousand miles if you never take that first step.

    Looking for Bible backup?

    For me, "thinking good thoughts" won't keep me going for long. Here's one specific verse that speaks to the subject. 

    A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed.  –Proverbs 15:

    There's more, of course. Whatever our situation, we Christians always have reason to smile. 

    For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.  -John 3:16

    But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.  -Romans 5:8

    May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him.  -Romans 15:13

    With love and prayers,
    Lenore

  • We've all lived it. Times when we felt numb and hopeless, for whatever reason.  

    Blog. woman. sky. 11.2023

    Right now some of us might blame it on taking in too much of what's going on around us in connection with the 2024 U.S. elections.

    Angry talk, accusations and division fill the air–and every kind of media or social platform we turn to. Even friends and family members walk on eggs around each other, afraid to voice their opinions out loud.

    It's fair to say it often looks and sounds more like we are the Divided States of America.

    What happened to national unity?

    From the beginning every American schoolkid heard over and over that the United States was the great melting pot. This was the one place on earth where it didn't matter what your name was or how much money you had. Whether you were born here or in another country and arrived via legal immigration.  

    No wonder the national mindset could be summed up like this:   

    We are Americans! We are one! 

    Also in that time everyone understood the truth of what we still say today: "Nobody's perfect."

    Hardly anyone argued with that, being well-acquainted with their own repeated failures to keep their good resolutions.   

    As one old-timer put it, "Ain't no perfect people anywhere. Anytime."

    Let's get our brains in gear  

    Let's set aside the charges and counter-charges for a moment and focus on some unique, foundational truths about our Nation:    

    1. We the citizens have the right to vote and elect our President, Vice President, Senators and Representatives and other governing officials. 
    2. We have the right to complain about those we elect at the National, State or local level of Government without fear of being dragged off to a work camp. 
    3. We have the right to work for any employer who will hire us. Own any car we can afford. Live in any house we can pay for. In any State we choose.
    4. We are free to form our own opinions. Every single one of us, agree or disagree. Free to worship God–or remain skeptical.

    This is rare. Shouldn't that fact give us the right to be proud of these United States of America?

    Is America perfect? Not by a long shot. Is America more good than bad? Yes

    If we focus only on the flaws in our society and in people and in our world, we cheat ourselves, our families and the people in our lives. There is so much more. 

    Like most Christians, I believe God put you and me right where we are, among the people in our lives. Why? Only He knows the full story. What if His purpose is so we can speak what is true and be a blessing? Here. Now.

    As someone has said, if we're alive and breathing it's a sign that God still has a purpose for us. A reason to go on.

    What can one person do? 

    Those of us who are Christians believe we are to pray for all those who are in authority, that they would have–or at least exercise–integrity and good judgment. 

    We all can pray that truth will prevail, in government, in education at every level, and in the hearts and minds of the people of this Nation.  

    Just as importantly, let's remind ourselves that ultimately, freedom is a matter of the heart and mind. As a Christian I believe this verse points the way:

    [Jesus said] "So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed."  John 8:36  

    For all of us, as clear-thinking adults, let's not get caught up in what is divisive. Rather, may we focus on what is good and right and true.

    That does not mean constantly barging into conversations in an effort to ensure our opinions dominate. Rather, we are to be gentle and kind in our conversations with friends, coworkers and family members. 

    We cannot bring peace in the world all by ourselves, but we can be up-builders in the place where God has planted us.

    NOW is the time!

    If you have not registered to vote, do it NOW because the deadlines are upon us.

    I implore you that between now and November 5 you would weigh the evidence and evaluate each candidate. Make up your own mind. Then be sure that you cast your vote–for your well-considered choices. Follow the instructions in your State, but get that vote in–and be sure it gets counted.

    Let's not waste our privilege as citizens of this much-blessed Nation. 

    Humbly and lovingly,

    Lenore 

  • When a large part of our inner sense of security crumbles–as it did after 9/11, what are we to do? 

    Or when a family or relationship problem shakes our personal world to the core?

    How do Blog. 9.11. imagesCAC10WPDwe cope? What do we tell our kids?

    We may feel a gaping emptiness inside and long for comfort for ourselves, but feel we have nowhere to turn.    

    Even in the day-to-day of life we may have people we care about who regularly (and more so in a crisis) look to us for reassurance and for clues on how to deal with life. 

    All the while we may be thinking, I have nothing left to give.  

    That's when we do what moms and wives–and dads and husbands–have done since the beginning of time. We give anyway. 

    We take our thoughts off what was lost and focus on what is left.

    Although we feel drained dry, still we can speak the hope that comes from beyond ourselves. Hope that's based on more than what we see and think and feel. Based on faith in God and the deep-down conviction that when we trust in Jesus as our Savior, "hope" becomes 100 percent guaranteed certainty.

    That's because it rests in the One who promised to be with us, no matter what, no matter where and to be our strength, even when we have none left within ourselves.

    How do we protect our children in this scary world?

    We can't, not really. We can hold their hands so tightly it cuts off their circulation and follow them around like bird dogs, but there's no way to absolutely ensure they will never hurt, never be disappointed.

    We watch over them, of course. We hug them and comfort them and speak the love we feel because nobody ever gets too much love and encouragement.

    Through it all, good times or not-so-good, every day we commit our loved ones to God's protection, asking Him to watch over them.

    How do we model living in faith?

    I used to think at some point I would arrive at a more, um, exalted state of being. That I would somehow "graduate," that is, to be always at peace.  

    Perhaps you've wished and prayed for that, too. Let's face the (humbling) truth: We are human beings living with never-ending announcements of yet another reason to feel shaky. That's the world we live in, yet we need not cringe in fear. 

    My help comes from the LORD, who made the heavens and the earth! He will not let you stumble and fall; the one who watches over you will not sleep.  Psalm 121:2-3  NLT

    For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.   Jeremiah 29:11

    Come to think of it, isn't that more than enough?

    Always, there is help available and it's as close as our nearest Bible.

    I've found when I'm running on "empty," the best way to recharge and refuel is to spend time in the Word and in prayer.

    Sounds good, but where do I start?

    Answers may vary–and that's okay, because each of us is an individual. Like many others, I find it helpful to mark Bible verses so I can find them more easily. 

    Verses like these, which I've had marked in my Bible for years:

    God is my refuge and strength, an ever present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the sea . . . The LORD Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress.      Psalm 46:1, 11

    The LORD gives strength to his people; the LORD blesses his people with peace.   Psalm 29:11

    The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you.    Psalm 9:9-10

    Living in the world

    You and I can't stop the evil in the world–and yes, there is evil in the world. Every year the 9/11 remembrances proves the point.  

    It didn't stop with 9/11–and it won't. Ever since Eden, the power of Satan–evil–is with us. 

    Evil will always keep trying, but it will never win. In Jesus, the battle is already won. 

    Our best strategy for survival–for enduring–is to stay planted in the Lord and keep filling our minds with truths from God's written Word. 

    Then when our loved ones turn to us, we'll be ready with love and with strength that comes from the Lord, who will never turn away from us.

    My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth.   Psalm 121:2  

    Whatever the disaster, little or large, in Jesus Christ we find the strength and stability to not only make it through, but also to speak peace and hope to those around us.

    All this comes not because of who we are or because of our great internal spiritual resources, but always, only because of the One who lives within us.

    Trusting, too,

    Lenore

  • Have you ever said to yourself, "I wish something would happen!" Blog. woman-bored-at-work. 5.2.10

    Consider that reckless thinking. That "something" may turn out to be scary.

    Take the time I did my usual breast self-exam and felt a tiny lump the size of a BB. I didn't remember feeling anything before. Next came the mammogram, then the "maybe" verdict, then the biopsy.

    Boy, did that un-bore me fast!

    Thanks be, the final verdict pronounced it benign. 

    Sometimes it's a phone call you never wanted to have

    Like the morning one of our daughters, college age, called with a plaintive note in her voice, "Is Dad there? I need to talk to him… ."

    If you've had young drivers of your own you can guess the reason why. This time another driver, uninsured, had rear-ended her car. That young man pushed her into the stopped car ahead of her at a busy Los Angeles intersection. Now she was scared and stranded because her car had been towed away.

    Thank God that although she was shaken up, she was spared serious injuries. 

    In the weeks of repair time that followed the rest of us were one car short. One "benefit"–nobody at our house was bored.  

    More bad news came a couple of weeks later

    A weighty, cream-colored envelope arrived. It bore the name and prestigious address of a Beverly Hills attorney. He wrote to inform us his firm was representing the other driver, someone with an unpronounceable name who was in the U.S. on a student visa. The bottom line of that letter? They intended to sue our daughter.

    Can you imagine our outrage? Our daughter was panicked and we weren't far behind as we ran through all the what ifs that came to mind.

    At last came common sense and we contacted our insurance company.

    End of story.

    Periods of fear and uncertainty can happen to us all

    Those are the times we wish we could go back to yesterday or the day before.

    Back to a day when if someone asked, "How was your day?" we could answer, "Oh, it's been just a normal day, kind of boring, really. Nothing much happened."

    If we've had a lengthy string of days like that we may even feel a bit sorry for ourselves. After all, don't we deserve a bit of excitement of our own?

    Been there, done that–and it never brings me joy to start going down that track.

    Words to lift our spirits

    I have no idea who Mary Jean Iron is, but I think her words pack a hefty meaning.  

    Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart. Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow. 

    In verse 24 of Psalm 118 we find the unshakable reason to consider every day a good day: 

    This is the day that the LORD has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it.

    I'm thinking these two together amount to great advice because one fact is inescapable. This day is the only day we really have.

    So whatever else is going on–or not going on in our days, let's rejoice that we're still breathing, still standing. Let's thank God we're alive and celebrate every minute of every day! 

    Blessings and peace and joy,

    Lenore

  • Have you noticed how someone's casual remark sometimes switches your mind into a new–and better–way of thinking? 

    Blog. Smiling woman. 2.19It happened to me when I ran into a friend I hadn't seen for months. After exchanging the usual pleasantries I asked, "How are things going for you lately?"                              

    She lit up with a big smile and said, "Lately my life has been really, really good."

    "Great! Has something changed?"

    "Nope. I just learned what makes the difference between being happy and being frustrated. It's simple, really: I lowered my expectations. That made all the difference."

    We each had places to rush off to, but our brief conversation replayed in my mind all week, probably because, um, I needed to hear it.

    How about you?

    Lower my expectations. Could it be that simple?

    Ever had a conversation like this at your house? 

    Me: "Well, I thought you would _____."

    My husband: "How was I to know what you expected? You're just disappointed because I didn't live up to your expectations."  

    He was right, of course. (Sigh.) 

    I finally admitted to myself that too often I thought I knew how things "should" go. With neighbors, with our children, even with myself.  

    I don't know about you, but I've never found this eased tensions.

    A solid place to start

    The more I thought about it, the more I understood how my friend's new attitude could change life for the better:

    Expect less and rejoice over what IS, rather than stress over what isn't.

    This sounds so basic it made me think well, any fool should be able to do that. 

    Exactly. That's the point.

    Plotting it out

    You probably aren't a psychiatrist or a counselor. Neither am I. But I learned some simple changes that made a big difference in all of life. 

    I found that first I had to lay aside my comfortable, customary habits. Then baby-step by baby-step, I needed to adjust my thinking and reacting. After awhile the new way of thinking felt more natural, more comfortable.   

    If you wonder how to start, think small. Manageable. Small twists on what you already know and the way you customarily behave.

    And always, always, be patient with yourself and with others. 

    Where to start? You get to choose. Here are some suggestions 

      1. Put aside former notions and just accept each person as they are, rather than thinking "If only … ." (Look on their differentness as a spice in life, rather than an irritant.)
      2. Reaffirm what's worthy in people with a bit of praise now and then. (Hint: There's no better way to see more of it.)
         
      3. Spend more time looking for what's good than hunting out what isn't. (Get ready to be surprised.)
      4. Be glad and grateful for what is instead of wishing for what isn't. (Decide to view your glass as half-full, rather than half-empty.)
      5. Look around at your own four walls with fresh eyes. (Instead of picking out flaws, let yourself breathe in the warmth of the home–the recharging station–you've created.) 
      6. Learn to appreciate small everyday joys. (They're the stuff of daily life.)
      7. Smile more. (Skin experts tell us this cuts down on wrinkles, too.)
      8. Begin each day with, "Thank you, Lord, for my life and the people in it." (Watch how this simple practice brightens your day.) 

    Three universal principles 

    • We get back what we give out

    If we long to hear praise we need to hand it out, too. (This means we open our eyes and actually see the people around us.)

    Suppose you want your spouse to be more thoughtful and loving. Exaggerated sighs and nagging seldom pay off. Instead, make it your habit to give out what you want to receive. (Be patient as your new way of mutual giving develops.) 

    • Be forgiving of flaws

    Nobody's perfect, not even you or me. Aren't you glad? If we keep this thought front and center in our minds it smooths over a lot of life's stresses. 

    • Give up chasing perfectionism and get real

    Perhaps you, too, were raised on, "Anything worth doing is worth doing well."

    Let it go. It's okay to think that good enough IS good enough. You hereby have my permission to relax. (I'm giving myself the same message.)

    Contentment. A synonym for happiness?

    The Apostle Paul wrote, "I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances."  (Philippians 4:11 NIV)

    Think about that. Even the Apostle Paul had to learn to be content, so let's not give up on ourselves as we take two steps forward and one step back. Over and over. (Two steps forward and one step back is still one step forward, isn't it?)

    We are, after all, only human. Through God's grace in Jesus Christ we who believe are forgiven sinners, but here on earth we'll remain flawed. 

    That truth makes it easier to lower our expectations and be glad for what is. Be thankful for the good qualities in your family and the people around you. 

    After all, don't we want the people we love and the people around us to accept us as we are? So let's be glad and thank God for what is. 

    Now, can we all breathe a big sigh of relief?

    Learning, too, 

    Lenore

  • Some often-told stories speak to every one of us. Like this one:

    Picture the new teacher who comes into Blog. teacher with student. 3.6.11      imagesCAY9N1M8 a new classroom. Truth is, even veteran teachers each year come into the unknown. Each one faces a sea of eager (or bored) students, mostly strangers to them. 

    Suppose the new teacher, for whatever reason, believes students assigned to his or her classroom are super-bright. What a privilege it will be to teach these high-achievers and give them the kind of instruction they deserve! 

    Those kids respond and blossom and turn in exceptionally good work. Teacher is happy and students are happy.

    Peace reigns, day after day. 

    Near the end of the school year this teacher discovers the truth 

    These kids were not "gifted." Just the opposite. Everyone from the principal on down considered them to be chronic behavior problems. "Somehow" they all ended up with the new teacher.  

    Long-time teachers secretly rejoiced that somebody else got stuck with these "troubled learners." They knew how these kids struggled in class and got sent to the principal's office on a regular basis. Every teacher and faculty member who tried to help ended up frustrated. None would admit it out loud, but these kids simply were being moved on through the system.

    Small wonder the old guard laughed when the newbie teacher treated these youngsters as if they were high-achievers. After awhile they stopped being amused. Wonder of wonders, those "loser" students began to live up to their teacher's expectations–and then some.

    In real life it never works out this neatly, of course.

    But what if it could? What if it did?

    Perhaps we need to take a fresh look at the people in our lives. Our spouses. Our children. Our friends and extended families. The people we work with and interact with in our everyday activities.

    Have we fitted them neatly into a box because we "know" their capabilities or lack of same?

    Have we given them labels based on the past instead of on who they are today?

    It's disturbingly easy to get stuck in what they–and we–used to be. It helps to pretend you've just met and ask yourself, "Who is this person?"

    You may be surprised at what you find.

    Sometimes we do the same thing with ourselves

    Every now and then it's good to ask ourselves, Who am I today?  

    If that sounds like a strange thing to do, just pause and think how often you say, "I never," or, "I always."

    Maybe that phrase once was true, but is it an accurate description today?

    Probably more than we realize, what we expect is what will happen, over and over–with others and with ourselves.

    We all know the saying, "What you see is what you get."

    The truth of those words apply in so many areas of living, especially in our relationships. People tend to live up to our expectations. So do you and I in our self-appraisal of who we are and what we can do. 

    The Apostle Paul tells us how to get a new outlook on ourselves and on other people–in 2 Corinthians 5:17 and in Ephesians 4:32:

    Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 

    Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God has forgiven you.

    That's the Good News of the Christian faith if we put our trust in Jesus Christ as our Savior. That's true no matter how many times we failed. It's not about how great we are or all we've been able to accomplish. HE is the one who makes us new. All we need to do is believe this is true.

    Our outlook on other people changes, too. We're able to stop thinking they should live up to how we view them. Because of these same promises we can let go of old hurts and expectations. 

    As usual, it starts with the eyes of our heart and how we choose to see others and ourselves. Here's to looking–and seeing–with new eyes.

    Still learning, too,

    Lenore

  • How are you doing with all the uncertainties and unrest around us? 

    Blog. Woman. worried. 4.20Many of us find our peace and patience running low. Nameless fears lace through every day and wake us in the night. 

    We tell ourselves I've always been good in a crisis. The only catch with that is that a crisis has a beginning and an end.

    The situations playing out for us in the news and all around us promise to continue for a long stretch–and we know it.

    That makes it worse.

    How can we stay on track day-to-day?

    Awhile back I ran across a yellowed newspaper clipping of a piece by long-ago columnist Frank Crane. Just reading the title took me back to when I was a young mother who struggled to keep up with the demands of our daily life. 

    Even so, I never missed reading a column titled, "Dr. Crane Says" in our daily newspaper because he spoke to my heart. I appreciated his practical advice and down-to-earth wisdom.    

    Every year or so the paper would feature his longer piece, "Just for Today" because year after year, it was his most-read column.

    This piece made good sense to me then, even though it challenged me. It still does because truth never gets outdated. 

    Here it is in the original version: 

    Just for Today 

    Here are ten resolutions to make when you awake in the morning.

    They are Just for One Day. Think of them not as a life task but as a day’s work.

    These things will give you pleasure. Yet they require will power. You don’t need resolutions to do what is easy.

    1. Just for Today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life-problem at once. I can do some things for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt I had to keep them up for a lifetime.

    2. Just for Today, I will be Happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is from Within; it is not a matter of Externals.

    3. Just for Today, I will Adjust myself to what Is, and not try to Adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come, and fit myself to them.

    4. Just for Today, I will take care of my Body. I will exercise it, care for it, and nourish it, and not abuse it nor neglect it; so that it will be a perfect machine for my will.

    5. Just for Today, I will try to strengthen my mind, I will study. I will learn something useful, I will not be a mental loafer all day. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.

    6. Just for Today, I will exercise my Soul. In three ways, to wit:

    (a) I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out. If anybody knows of it, it will not count.

    (b) I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests just for exercise.

    (c) I will not show any one that my feelings are hurt. They may be hurt, but Today I will not show it.

    7. Just for Today, I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible,  talk low,  act courteously, be liberal with flattery, criticize not one bit nor find fault with anything, and not try to regulate nor improve anybody.

    8. Just for Today, I will have a Programme. I will write down just what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I’ll have it. It will save me from the two pests Hurry and Indecision.

    9. Just for Today, I will have a quiet half hour, all by myself, and relax. During this half hour, some time, I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective to my life.

    10. Just for Today, I will be Unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to be Happy, to enjoy what is Beautiful, to love and to believe that those I love love me.

    (Copyright, 1921 by Frank Crane)

    One more thing …

    I never want to confine my thinking of God to only 30 minutes a day because he's not "out there" or "up there." Over and over He promises to be with us every minute of every day.

    He is our loving God. Because he loved us enough to send his only Son (John 3:16) we're free to ask his help any time of the day or night. Period. Whenever we feel anxious and unsettled we can go to the Lord and let his peace quiet our hearts. 

    Long ago God spoke to his people through his prophet Elijah. His words still ring true for us today: 

    Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.  Isaiah 41:10   

    You and I are never alone. That's true even if we live alone. We can make it through whatever comes if we allow God's promises be our bottom line. 

    Trusting, too, 

    Lenore

  • Never think "Nobody listens to me!"  

    That's not true. Even if you live alone, you listen to your words. Think of the constant stream of words in your mind. That sound track plays constantly in the background.

    Blog. Mother talking + son. 8.20It's as if we have an inner critic–or an inner cheerleader–that never takes a break.

    Most of us have no notion when that voice took up residence.

    Some trace it back to one or more individuals along the way, probably someone we wanted desperately to please.

    A parent. A teacher or boss. A friend, or so we thought until …

    Once we identify even just the beginning of that process it can help us understand ourselves–and others. 

    The lifelong influence of parents

    A good friend grew up in poverty, but he went on to success in every area of his life. When asked how he managed that, "Jim" had a stock answer. "My mother always told me she knew I would do something great with my life.    

    "I didn't really believe her, but I figured she must know something about me that I didn't. So whenever a challenge cropped up I did the best I knew how to do and God blessed my hard work."

    His mom's words–and her confidence–echoed in his mind all his days.  

    Because of her example he frequently spoke love and confidence to his wife and children. In the workplace Jim became known as "the spark plug" because he buoyed up those around him.  

    Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.  1 Thessalonians 5:11  ESV 

    What about us? 

    Our words are power-packed, too. Do you doubt that? Just think back to the last time someone's thoughtless remark cut deep and you still can't forget it.  

    We've all done it, haven't we? Often we spew out our frustrations on whomever is handy. Our husband or our wife–or our children. Right away we wish we could take back our words, well aware that's not the way to nurture a relationship. Or a friendship. 

    Then there's gossip and "sharing" without the other person's permission. Loose lips have sunk many a relationship.

    Set a guard over my mouth, LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips.  Psalm 141:3  NIV

    Make it a habit to be a people-booster

    Call to mind the last time you expressed your confidence in someone. They may have said, "Yeah, sure," and turned away. Later on you noticed they stood just a bit taller and looked quietly pleased.

    Why? Just ask yourself whether you'd prefer a pat on the back or a kick in the pants.

    Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.  Romans 15:2  ESV

    How do we want to be thought of?

    You and I affect the present–and the future–of people we love because they care what we think.

    Think how often you hear an adult–even an older adult–remark, "My mother–or my dad–always said …"

    Our children care, too, even when they seem not to. Even after they're grown and well into living their own lives. 

    It's the same in a marriage. We either build each other up or tear each other down. The choice is always before us.

    Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.      Ephesians 4:29  LNT

    We affect ourselves, too 

    It's not complicated. Start with the certainty that no one talks to you more than you do–every moment of every day. (Yes, this goes on even when we're not aware of it.) 

    If I fill my mind with what's wrong or what's missing in my life, I'm on my way to a lousy day.

    If I get stuck on what I wish were there in the people in my life, I find all kinds of new "evidence" to prove my point.

    On the other hand, if I set out to identify what's right and good and true in life or in people, that comes through, too.

    So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.  Romans 14:19  ESV

    We find what we look for

    Have you ever wondered how professional photographers always manage to shoot scenic shots of pure blue skies and puffy white clouds?

    It's because they use camera filters and other enhancements that enable them to screen out the smog and smoke and haze the rest of us see.  

    Similarly, our words and our thoughts become our "filters" and affect the way we–or others–view life.

    That may sound overly simplistic, but it's a basic truth.

    Similarly, all through our lives people we love and admire become "filters" which we factor in to our view of ourselves, either positively or negatively.

    It's always our choice, whether our words will be kind and warm someone's heart and lift their spirits. 

    As usual, the Apostle Paul summed it up well:  

    Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing . . . Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.  1 Thessalonians 5:11; 16-18  ESV

    Yes, yes, I know. None of us can live up to this standard, but wouldn't it make life better for ourselves and for those around us if we perhaps tackled one phrase of Paul's words at a time?

    Wouldn't our words more likely bring smiles and encouragement as they live on in the memories of people we love?

    And isn't that what we all want?

    Still learning, too,  

    Lenore

  • Are you weary of the constant barrage of news reports filled with angry charges and dissent? 

    Blog. Woman striped shirt. Thinking. 6.27.24Me, too. 

    Let's not get stuck there. Let's step back in our minds to before the United States of America officially existed. The population seethed with unease because this was a colony of Great Britain. For anyone to speak or act against the King's decrees could result in being charged with treason.

    Still, in that setting a small group of men summoned up courage to gather in secret. They labored together for days as they hammered out the unforgettable words of our Declaration of Independence. From the first to the last they knew they were risking their lives and everything they owned.

    When they signed their names it was akin to signing their own death warrants. Yet they did not flinch.

    Even today their words live on  

    "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness."

    These were audacious words in an era when every man, woman and child within our borders was subject to a powerful Ruler and government headquartered across a vast Ocean. 

    The signers believed in God ("their Creator") and their Declaration of Independence makes that clear. Its adoption by the Continental Congress on July 4, 1776, marked the United States of America as an independent nation. It took the Revolutionary War to establish this as fact to Great Britain and the rest of the world. 

    Through all the unrest of that time–and so many times in our history, including today–America survives. 

    Leaders, then and now

    Our Nation's Founders believed in God. If you doubt that, read some of their words:

    "We recognize no sovereign but God, and no King but Jesus."  -John Adams and John Hancock.

    "It is impossible to rightly govern the world without God and the Bible."  -George Washington

    "[The Bible] is the rock on which our Republic rests."  -Andrew Jackson

    These Founders stated what they believed. No doubt they also relied on Bible verses like this:     

    God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.  Psalm 46:1

    Instead of angst let's take each day as a gift and leave it in God's hands

    Let's substitute encouraging each other for complaining and repeating our gripes and our fears to the people around us.

    We know for sure this is not the first time in our Nation's history when emotions ran high and trust ran low. No doubt it won't be the last.  

    As we take in the news and conversations around us let's use reason and logic to evaluate individuals and current events. After all, since the beginning leadership positions have been held by imperfect people.

    (That shouldn't surprise us since that's all there is to draw on.)

    Finding a place of calm

    The future–all of it–is in the hands of our gracious Father, who loves us with an everlasting love. We can safely rest our hearts in Bible promises like these:  

    Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:6-7   

    Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.  John 14:27   

    The courageous men who signed our Declaration of Independence believed this. This strong foundation of faith has carried these United States of America through many a crisis.

    However flawed we may be as a Nation or as individuals, it takes nothing away from these Truths.

    Choose a new perspective

    Imagine how our society would change for the better if each of us made it our purpose to be a blessing to our family and friends. 

    Think how that would–could–change us. Our street. Our community. Our Nation.

    Whatever our stage of life this could give us a sense of new Life, plus the Liberty of being free of old mindsets. Our personal pursuit of Happiness would result in good all around.  

    Reason to celebrate, for sure!

    Praying for this Nation and for you,

    Lenore